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Remember & honor the women who came before you. {Autumn Ancestor Ritual}

I talk a lot about feeling connected to my ancestors, specifically the women in my lineage. I have found that, the more I work with my hands, the more I get that remembering feeling. It’s like I can see my great great great grandmothers gathering at the table cooking meals, making medicines, and telling their stories together.

The more I work with my hands and lean into that remembering, the more powerful and connected I feel.

When I bring this topic up with women in my community, it resonates with them too.

Sometimes the remembering is beautiful and powerful – bringing up images of pruning roses in the garden with a beloved grandmother or gathering with the elder women of the village for a canning party in late summer.

But this exploration in remembering can also bring up a lot of wounds from the past – images of substance abuse, abandonment, and deep depp grief.

I’ve had some women tell me that they’ve felt visceral sadness every time they read about the torture and burning of thousands of women across Europe over fear of their healing abilities.

I, myself, recently experienced a powerful release of ancestral grief during a healing massage session a few weeks ago – where I moaned and wailed for all the women in my lineage who experienced all ranges of oppression, abuse, and feeling like they couldn’t walk in the world as their authentic, free selves. When I finished, I felt lighter in my body – like I could fly. After I snapped a photo of that moment, I made a silent promise to all the women who came before me to honor them and their stories.

Autumn is a particularly potent time to honor and connect to your ancestors.

Nature is making it’s subtle and beautiful shift from summer to winter and, as the chill slowly sets in, we are reaching the height of “dying season” – which is naturally associated with the spirits of those who have passed. It is said the veil between the worlds between the living and the dead reaches its thinnest.

This is felt throughout many cultures. Mexico celebrates their ancestors with Dia de Los Muertos (the day of the dead), Western culture celebrates Halloween, and nature-based traditions celebrate Samhain.

I highly recommend looking into Samhain because you can see that many of the things we associate with modern day Halloween are derived at least in part from Samhain customers. Carving pumpkins, leaving out sweet food, black and orange colors, the donning of costumes, and community gatherings all come from various Celtic customs (many of them as old as 5,000 years) at this time of year.

We want to know where we came from and whose blood runs through our veins. We recognize those you have come before us. It puts into perspective the fact that we too will become an ancestor to future generations. Our stories will matter.

So how can you honor your ancestors this autumn?

I like the ritual of leaving out an altar on Halloween {and Samhain} night.

Remember & honor the women who came before you. {Autumn Ancestor Ritual}

I usually adorn a wooden tray with the following items on it:

  • Pictures of my ancestors
  • Heirlooms that belonged to my ancestors like jewelry, dishes or items of clothing
  • A candle for each person I’m honoring
  • A glass of wine symbolizing an offering to them (last year it was a shot of whiskey, another year it was a bottle of water)
  • Flowers and gathered nature elements to honor the turning season
  • Seasonal fruit to thank Mama Earth for her harvest this year
  • A letter of gratitude
  • Something I’ve made with my hands to remind me of my connection to them

I highly recommend listening to your intuition here and crafting an altar with elements that feel right and sacred to you. There is no wrong here.

I place the altar tray just outside my door (usually next to my jack-o-lantern pumpkins and halloween decorations awaiting eager and adorable trick-or-treaters) just as the sun is setting.

You may want to sit in front of your altar in meditation or in reflection with a journal (being open to receiving any intuitive messages) before walking away from it. In the morning you can bring your altar back inside to complete the ritual.

One more thing!

Your ancestors do not have to be known or family members to be honored. Friends and cultural figures can also be seen as ancestors. Anyone that you see as having contributed to your existence and your life path in a significant way can serve as an ancestor to be honored.

So, as the veil is thinning and the air is getting crisp, I invite you to connect to the women who contributed to every thread of the fabric of your being and craft a ritual to honor them this Autumn.


Be Like the Trees & Let Go {+ guided meditation}

I’ve got a theory about why Autumn is such a popular time of year.

Beyond the pumpkin spice everything and cozy sweata weatha, I believe we are innately tuning in to the natural rhythm of the seasons and preparing ourselves to release and let go of what is no longer serving us.

The trees provide a beautiful model for this right now, as they are embodying this transition we are feeling within ourselves. Their leaves are expressing their last burst of energy (and color) before their energy starts to wane and the sap moves back down their branches and trunk for the winter – with the leaves withering and falling to the ground.

The trees are showing us how healthy and powerful it is to let things go in preparation for winter’s rest.

And yet this can feel so counterintuitive for many of us – to take things off our plates, purge our closets, release old stories, and reduce our workload so that we can align with the season and not feel sick, depressed, and off-center during the darker, colder months of the year.

We are encouraged (by nature!) to let things go, to shed what does not serve us so we can gather all our necessary energy to go into hibernation mode.

To help you tune into this concept further (as we head into deep days of Autumn), I’ve made you a meditation that will take you into a beautiful Autumn forest and guide you through the process of letting go of what is no longer serving you at this time.

I did this guided meditation a few weeks ago during my live virtual women’s gathering for the Autumn Equinox and the women really loved it, so I was happy to make a recording and share it with you.

Before you click play on the meditation below, I recommend grabbing a cozy blanket and finding a comfortable place to really tune in to my words.

After you listen to the meditation, I’d love to know what came up for you! What are you letting go of? What did you see in that Autumn forest? Leave a comment below!

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Click through to this guided meditation that takes you through a forest and shows you how to let go like the autumn leaves.


“Creating these spaces for sisterhood is such a valuable opportunity to shift the expectation society puts on people and meet people with acceptance. What we can do in these spaces is create a different experience of belonging for women.” – Kelsey Mech

How to Create Your Own Creative Women's Circle

A few weeks ago, a conversation was started amongst the women in The Dabblist Collective talking about wanting to know more about creating in-person creative women’s circles in their areas.

Here’s some of what was said…

I want to begin a witchy, goddessy group in my town, but not sure which rituals to start with since I live in a very non-witchy area”

“How neat would it be to spread this idea in our own towns?! Let’s learn together so we can provide this to women everywhere.”

“I love the idea of a creativity circle…I’ve been craving more connection in my life and other groups I’ve tried aren’t the right fit and too far away from me to be worth it.”

“THIS topic IS the exact reason that I joined this sisterhood!

I get this question a lot – how can you create your own close circle of creative women who want to work with their hands or honor the moon or have deep, meaningful conversations (or all 3!)?

I love discussing this, as it’s something I’ve been working on myself over the past couple of years since I moved to a new town (I talk more about it in this post). I found myself feeling isolated and, even though I was making friends and acquaintances at the gym and library and coffee shop, I wanted something deeper. I wanted to commune with women in a space of sacred creative sisterhood.

So, after convincing myself I couldn’t have it, I changed my mind and decided I’d create it on my own. I opened myself up to the possibility of getting it and, within a few weeks, I was part of a circle of women that meets on the full moon each month. I talk more about the details of that group in the video below.

There are so many ways to create your own creative women’s circle. And, to prove that point, I invited my friend Kelsey Mech (who is also a member of The Dabblist Collective) to share the story of how she created her own group this year. Check it out!

Some Takeaways from our Conversation:

  • Start small. Just ask some women if they want to get together and make stuff together. Women want this!
  • “Working with your hands is a ritual in itself.” It’s the gateway to the more witchy, spiritual stuff.
  • For busy women, have them commit at least 1 month ahead of time. Doodle polls are super helpful!
  • Leverage women’s gifts and strengths – teachers, facilitators, hosts, cooks, space holder, email organizers.
  • Let women know it’s ok to communicate where they’re at and show up no matter what’s going on for them.
  • Check out The Millionth Circle: The Essential Guide to Women’s Circles by Jean Shinoda Bolen
  • It’s all ok, there is no right or wrong. Every manifestation of this concept is perfect.

I want to hear from you!

If you have started a women’s creative circle or sister group, I’d love to know more about what you’ve created and how it works. Let me know by leaving a comment below.

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Celebrate the Equinox with a Handmade Autumn Head Wreath

Before we get into Autumn head wreath making fun, I want to share a few thoughts on sacred adornment with you.

I used to translate dress for success to mean dress how the conventional world typically views a “successful woman”.

To me, that meant boxy clothes in drab colors that didn’t flatter my curvy body shape and essentially had me feeling (and looking) like a wilted leaf in the pouring rain. It was about fitting into the army of pant suits, cardigans and ballet flats which gave me a false sense of belonging.

…until I realized it wasn’t an authentic expression of my magic.

I am a bold color, many-patterned, sometimes subtle, sometimes outrageous, vibrant being. When I close my eyes and envision my higher self standing proudly in her wisest, empowered self…she is a walking work of art. Everything she wears is thoughtfully curated, handcrafted by artisans or herself, and a full reflection of her values in the world. She is stunning.

So these days, when I think about dressing for success, I call it sacred adornment – decorating my temple body with beautiful things that make me feel amazing. Wearing colors, textures, shapes, and accessories that brighten me up and don’t have me shrinking behind them. It’s a form of self-expression that has the ability to change the way I feel about myself in a matter of minutes.


I learned about the sacred art of self decoration with the monarch butterflies perched atop my head, lightning bugs as my night jewelry, and emerald-green frogs as bracelets.

— Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves

 Celebrate the Equinox with a Handmade Autumn Head Wreath

So today, in honor of the Autumn Equinox, I invite you to join me in adorning yourself with an Autumn Head Wreath – made with your own beautiful and artful hands.

You can make your head wreath with anything from fall leaves to fall colored flowers to feathers and herbs (I’m a big fan of rosemary for head wreaths!).

Here are some fun autumn crown ideas to inspire your creative curiosity, but I made mine with some leaves from the Japanese Maple tree in my front yard (whose leaves have just transitioned to a bright orangey red that catches my breath each morning when I walk out to water the garden).

The process is super simple and, once you learn, you can apply it all year long with winter solstice crowns and spring and summer floral pieces. It’s super addicting – you’ve been warned!

Supplies You Will Need:

Floral Wire (or try this one)

Floral Tape (or try this one)

Floral Wire Cutter (or try these)

Wreath supplies – leaves, flowers, feathers, herbs, etc

Celebrate the Equinox with a Handmade Autumn Head Wreath

  1. Grab your floral wire and measure around your head to get the right sized halo. Make a little bend in the wire to mark where the halo ends and wrap the wire 2 more times to make it a little thicker.
  2. Cut the wire once your halo feels like it’s the right size and thickness.
  3. Wrap the end piece of the wire around the bundle a few times to secure the halo size.
  4. Grab your floral tape and start firmly wrapping it around the wire bundle, working your way around the entire halo. The tape will be sticky so don’t be afraid to really pull it tight to secure it in place.
  5. Once you’ve made your way around the halo, tear off the floral tape and secure the loose end around the wire.
  6. Grab your adorning pieces and secure the stem to the wire halo using the floral tape. Be sure to wrap tightly to make sure it’s secure. Then move down the stem a few inches to secure to the halo once more. Keep doing this all the way around the halo and snip off excess stem.
  7. This is where you allow your intuition and inner artist to take over. Position the adorning pieces in a way that feels good to you. Some leaves or blooms will naturally fall one way or the other – go with it and see what comes out of it. I have found that larger flower heads are best positioned right in the front, while longer stems work well on the side of the halo, creating a regal crown shape. Be sure to secure each steam tightly with the floral tape as you go along.
  8. Once your crown has finished, spritz it with a little water for nourishment and crown yourself a success. When you’re finished with your crown, you can hang it from a doorknob to allow it to dry. Dried flower crowns have their own special beauty.

Once you’ve created your crown, I would love to see it! Tag me @thedabblist with #AutumnHeadWreath on instagram.

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Celebrate Autumn by adorning yourself with a handmade Autumn Head Wreath. Click through to the post for step by step instructions.



I’ve been thinking a lot about feminism lately.

It’s become quite a loaded word in our society, hasn’t it? It feels fierce and fiery the moment you utter it from your lips.

Although it’s definition is pure – stating that women should have the same rights as men – it’s emotional meaning brings up all sorts of discomfort in the greater collective around power and what it means to be a woman today and where we fit in the fabric of our communities.

My mother’s generation was one of revolution.

They grew up watching their mothers feel forced to assimilate into the role of 1950s housewives to accommodate their post-war husbands (even though many of them were the ones that worked on the factory line to keep the economy moving), and resolved to never feel pigeonholed into a disempowered role of less-than wife ever again.

So they took on the patriarchy with such ferocity and demanded equality in every form. And, in the process of all that, a confusing gray area was formed – one of viewing men as evil oppressors while also believing that the only way to be successful and seen as truly equal was to be fully in the masculine.

…meanwhile the soft, embracing, wild feminine was sitting on the sidelines wondering when someone would remember that she was there.

Note: I’m somewhat generalizing here, but this has been the overall trend I’ve witnessed in my own lineage.

Let me also just clarify here that when I speak of the masculine and feminine, I’m not referring to specific genders. I talk more about that in this post.

I believe that, when we remember the creative wisdom of our great grandmothers and work with our hands to make beautiful things, we are reclaiming the feminine back in our lives and balancing the strong masculine that so many of us have been programmed to embrace and lean into to live a “successful life”.

Stop Shaming Handmaking as Lesser Work - an alternative view on feminism.

That was my experience 5 years ago when I started working with herbs and cooking more in the kitchen – it opened up my awareness of this other side of life I had previously rejected and I felt more connected to the women of my lineage who used to bake bread together and forage and dry herbs and make medicines for their communities.

It felt good.

But I also felt some shame.

Shame that I was being drawn to becoming a homemaker or artist or someone who didn’t value intellect as highly. I was looking at hand-making as the lesser work.

And when I left my job as a successful marketing manager to pursue my creative passion of working with my hands, I worked diligently to re-wire that part of my brain that thought those things. Because, deep down, I knew the truth – that this was my path to coming back into balance. What I was doing was so much more than crafting out of boredom or to avoid the hard work that makes you worthy of male praise (and male pay).

This was feminine ancestral artistry.

Today, the belief that creating with your hands and knowing how to nourish yourself and your community doesn’t make you powerful seems crazy to me.

The other day, I was having this conversation with my friend (and podcast co-host) Maia and she told me about her European travels and being around old Italian women – ruling from the kitchen with a wooden spoon. “You wouldn’t call those women weak,” she said. “They are powerful – just as much as those sitting at the table in a boardroom.”

Women have been isolated.

We’ve been put into our own homes and taught to avoid appearing vulnerable or un-polished in front of each other. As a result, we’ve forgotten our communal, hand-making ways.

When we come together to do our handwork in community and remember that we are sisters, we heal and knit the fabric of our community even tighter.

It is then that we realize just how powerful we really are.

I want to be clear that I am, in no way, shaming you for your chosen career path – be it stay at home mom, CEO of a Fortune 500 company, or part time barista/part time artist. I celebrate being alive in an era where we women have so much choice in who we want to be and the many career paths we can take in life.

I just don’t want anyone telling you that working with your hands in community with women makes you weak. Because that’s some Grade A Bullsh*t.

I want to hear from you! Have you felt shame for your passion for working with your hands? How did you overcome it? Or is it still a struggle? I feel you, sister. Share in the comments below!

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